Empathy and relationship

That’s strange to me
I have a lot of words to say , a lot of hurting things maybe
i don’t even know what’s is right and what is wrong and i don’t even know if my judgment is right or wrong , but i think that i’m facing a familiar and a strange problem in the same time , witch is lack of empathy .
Well usually i don’t accept lack of empathy in my relationship , usually I exaggerate on asking for Interests , i usually complain when i don’t get it or i feel that my partner lack empathy with me .
Ok well this time is different , this time i feel like i don’t have the right to complain ,and this is for many reasons .
First at all i have been in such situation before and i know that complaining will not solve the problem , i should say that yeah , it make me feel better and more comfortable but that disturb the relationship .
Second it may be considered at no problem at all , because in the first place and theoretically , empathy is not something to ask , if someone is interested so he will ask if not, so love and attention are not things that you can bought from the supermarket, these things are either do exist or do not .

Third I understand very well that i  can’t  blame someone for who he is , as an example i will try to analyse the personality of my lover , he is a strong person he believe in ” solve your problems by yourself”  and never wait for help even if this help is coming as some good words , beside he like good mood and happy people so he is not obliged to hear me talking about problems that he could not do anything about , and after all who i’m to him so he sustain  my stupid bla bla bla

And after all i think that maybe the problem is in me , in what i do ask for and not in people around me not in my love , maybe the whole universe is standing there to tell me girl grow up , and face my life by my own , and stop looking for support .

I guess empathy is an important thing in the life of person ,and if someone and especially someone dear to your heart show you empathy that make you feel good , and that help to show love and care , but if it does not exist just accept persons around you the way they are and try to be happy and face your problem by your own .I guess this is a lesson that i have learned i wish if i can apply it in my real life and i loved to share it in this article .

images (12)

Advertisements

he make me dream like in a fairy tale

since i was a teenager i never had normal dream and i’m always creative and i have different storys and definitions in my head.

even when it come to love , well let’s say especially about love i have a different view .Well i’m not big fun of white dresses and big party , in the first place i’m not a fun at all with the idea of marriage and babies , i’m a free mind and i love my freedom ,but it come to me like anybody else to dream from time to time about someone that i wish to continu my life with him , well usually it’s just a dream and i don’t even have a person who resemble to what i want not even a littel , even when i was with someone in reality i always keep my dreams like a secret garden to go to refuge in them when reality go awful that’s work despite it’s never real . I have to say that reality is never like my dreams , my dreams are so romantic and i’m so happy and my partner is great and love me much , but in reality my partner were never like in my dreams .
But lately an unusual thing happened to me , i love someone that i can see him in my flash of dreams he is invade me by a way that he can storm my very private refuge , and i love that feeling that i find someone who can be in my dreams , despite that reality would be very different , and i know that he wont love me crazy in reality , I will never get such romantic surprise as i dream.

But right now i’m dreaming about him , he give me wings and make me feel like living in a fairy tale

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQz5-k4Paq0

images